Today, we’re going to be talking about how to forgive somebody quickly and easily.
I’ve broken it down to three mindsets that I think are going to help you release the resentments, tension, pain, sorrow, and all the things that stick inside us when we can’t forgive somebody.
It’s SO critically important that we’re able to release these things because ultimately, holding on to these resentments, keeping them tight in our chests hinders the progress of your own personal life.
So, we REALLY need to master how to forgive someone quickly and easily so that we can release this non-self serving energetic that keeps us stuck.
Forgiving Someone – Three Simple Mindsets
The first mindset that will help you in this forgiveness is that everything that everyone does is either an act of love or a cry for love.
I want you to think about that for a second: “Everything someone does is either an act of love, or a cry for love.”
If you break down ANY situation or actions, you can get back to its core component and realize that “everything is either an act of love, or a cry for love”.
When you see the world from that mindset, when you think about the world in that way, it starts chipping away the resentment that you’re holding on to. You’ll see:
“Oh wow, that person, deep down inside, they didn’t want to offend me. They didn’t want to hurt me in so many ways. They are looking for love and they have no idea how to ask for it.”
That ties in with the second mindset that is going to be SO helpful for you. Mindset number two is to understand that “everybody is doing the best they can with the tools they have”.
What do I mean by tools? I mean understanding, knowledge, mindsets, and things I am delivering right now. I mean beliefs and thought patterns. I mean their resources, family members to draw on, and the examples they have in their life. All of these things culminate in someone’s tools.
Myself, I’ve been doing a lifetime of self-development starting with landmark education at the age of nine years old. I had a mother who is a Fortune 500 business consultant and a landmark-educated father and family. I grew up with a LOT of tools.
Someone who might have done some mean, horrible, or bad stuff to you might not have these tools. They do NOT know a better way to live. They do NOT know a better way to be a more loving, grateful generous, expressed way to live.
That’s ultimately their problem. That’s a lot of pain inside of them.
Put these first two mindsets together and you will understand that not only is everybody doing the best they can with the tools they have, but everything they are doing is either an act of LOVE or a cry for LOVE. So, if someone has very little tools then, ALL these things that we perceive to be horrible acts that are simply a cry for love.
I mean when we take it to the most EXTREME example, someone who is a murderer, a criminal, a rapist, or someone like that, someone SO horrific and seem so unforgivable. You have to look at the tools they have.
How did they grow up? What happened to them that got them so far out of balance with who they really and truly are as a divine being of gratitude, joy, and spirit? What got them SO far away from that place to be in such a place of suffering that they had to reach out for an act so disgusting?
Those first two mindsets really cover everybody else. But ultimately, this is all about YOU. Forgiveness starts within.
So, the third mindset that you have to understand is that nobody can hurt you but you.
You are the only person that hurts yourself. So, all forgiveness must start within. The first person you need to forgive is yourself.
We tend to be the hardest on ourselves. That’s why so many rape victims will never report the fact that they have been raped because they fault themselves for it so much. They think that they are so wrong for having even gotten into that situation. How did it ever ended up happening?
We’re our own biggest critics and forgiveness has to start within.
The reason that NOBODY can hurt you but you is because things happen all over the place, but what they MEAN is up to you. If you’re going to call me a jerk below this video, some people might get hurt and offended by that. To me, it would not mean anything and that’s my choice.
That’s a simple example and it can get WAY deeper than that. Understand that you’re the ONLY person that hurts you and so, forgiveness starts within.
Combine these three mindsets! The fact that everything is an act of love or a cry for love; the fact that everyone is doing the best they can with the tools they have; and the fact that healing and forgiveness starts within and the first person to forgive is you.
You’re now in a place to forgive people very quickly and easily because you have the tools now. You have the understanding now to see a higher light and awareness. You understand that holding on to these resentments is only going to keep you stuck. They’re going to keep you from moving forward in your life to the JOYOUS life that you want to live.
If you need help to learn how to change, I made another video advice on the matter.
So, now you have the tools to make the decision to RELEASE these resentments. If you have a really deep-seated emotion that’s hard to let go off, I recommend you watch my video series on “How to master your emotions”.
Learn the core technique and start applying it because that will help you immensely.
I hope this video has been helpful.
Please comment below. Let me know who you need to forgive. I can give some advice on how to go about forgiving them. Or, let me know how these mindsets have empowered you to forgive somebody that you might be holding some resentment for.
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